Julia A. Case ([info]mornhyland) wrote,
@ 2008-04-27 20:29:00
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Julia A Case 8/28/1967 - 4/23/2008
This is Maria, Julia's (lj user "mornhyland") wife.

Julia took her own life midday on Wednesday, April 23rd.

I will be leaving her journal up, just the way she left it.

During this sad and bewildering time, I hope you will find some comfort in remembering the wonderful things that made Julia so beloved by so many. Thank you for reading her LiveJournal, it meant a lot to Julia.

With great sadness,

Maria

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[info]codeman38
2008-04-28 04:22 am UTC (link)
O_o

I...I don't know...what to say... -_-;;

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[info]lagizma
2008-04-28 05:06 am UTC (link)
Maria,

I am honored to have been Julia's friend, and her journal is a source of insight and inspiration to people from all walks of life. I learned so much from her. I speak of her to my sister and boyfriend, in fact. Thank you for leaving it up. Thank you for being her family and for contacting us.

Jessica Lux

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[info]flaifire
2008-04-28 06:41 am UTC (link)
Maria, I don't know what to say, I know I won't forget her or the help and support she always offered me, relating to math and our lives. I hope she has found some sort of peace. Thank you for letting us know, I can't stop crying now or I might say something more. Please let me know if you have any extra pictures from the wedding, I gave Julia the negatives before you moved.
~Anya

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[info]rollingsuitcase
2008-04-28 06:43 am UTC (link)
I am so sorry. She was such a wonderful and caring person.

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Rest In Peace
[info]unix_vicky
2008-04-28 07:37 am UTC (link)
I hope Julia has found peace now. She was a good friend. I knew her while she was down here in Washington, DC, and followed her postings here on LJ recently.

And thank you for keeping us informed. Our thoughts and good wishes go out to you.

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(((HUGS)))
[info]poeseewi
2008-04-28 07:59 am UTC (link)
I will miss Julia, we had many long chats on the internet and even though I never met her in person, she was a wonderful friend. I will miss her and thank you for leaving her journal up, it is a wonderful memorial to a very special person. My prayers are with you Maria.

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[info]finbardivine
2008-04-28 08:10 am UTC (link)
Been trying to write this for the past hour and keep getting caught up unable to find words.

I met Julia around 8 or 9 years ago over the intarweb (actually, for the curious it was through match.com). Where a romantic relationship was not in the cards (the chemistry wasn't there) a good virtual friendship grew. As with most internet friendships it would wax and wane (there'd be months where we wouldn't speak and months where we'd speak regularly). We always wanted to find a way to meet in person and never were able to pull it off, something always got in the way. At this point, all I can do is regret this.

My thoughts and prayers are with her, you and everyone who cared about her.

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[info]bookgirlwa
2008-04-28 08:13 am UTC (link)
Oh god. I hadn't `known' Julia for long, and only via LJ, and I am sad that I won't ever get the chance to know her better.

My deepest condolences to you, Maria, and everyone else who knew and loved her.

This just reminds me to keep fighting to make life better and more livable for those of us with disabilities and/or psych illnessess. From what I did know of her, I knew that her life was harder that it should have to have been.

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Oh...!
[info]aurora_nebulosa
2008-04-28 01:33 pm UTC (link)
I was so very shocked to read this late last night! I knew that she was going through hard times, but I didn't realize that she was so close to suicide... She seemed like a real fighter, actually. I just feel so guilty right now...wondering what I could've done or said that might've stopped her from snuffing out her life when there was still hope left. She often came to me online when she was feeling down and I know and admit that there were times when I could've said more than I did to lift her up...

I am so sorry...to Julia and to you....

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[info]pawpower4me
2008-04-28 02:10 pm UTC (link)
I don't even know what to say. I am so sorry for you, Maria and for all of us who have lost a wonderful person. Most of all I am sorry that Julia felt like this was her only course of action.
hugs

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[info]catskillmarina
2008-04-28 03:06 pm UTC (link)
I will miss her a lot.

--- Marina Brown

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[info]mammasteed
2008-04-28 03:23 pm UTC (link)
I am so sorry this happened. I feel lots of guilt for being so busy and not being around like a good friend should, especially in her last week. I hope she's finally found some peace.

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[info]ladyofthelog
2008-04-28 03:42 pm UTC (link)
Oh my gosh. I can't quite believe it.

Julia, you, and all of Julia's family will be in my prayers.

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[info]lijepanena
2008-04-28 04:51 pm UTC (link)
=( That is awful! She was such a kind hearted sweet person with so much insight. I will miss her terribly.

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[info]melissa_maples
2008-04-28 05:27 pm UTC (link)
I didn't know Julia, but I'm terribly sorry to hear of this, and my thoughts are with you during this inconceivably difficult time.

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[info]woofiegrrl
2008-04-28 07:11 pm UTC (link)
Oh fuck. I just found this out from another friend. Fucking shit, Julia!!! Why??? I know the breakup was hard on her but she just got the therapy got and she was getting mobility training and she was going to learn Braille and she and I got our hearing aids one day apart and we were going to compare notes and she always talked with me about computers and cell phones and I don't fucking believe it!!! Why???

Sorry for unloading that on you, Maria. Thank you very, very much for posting. I have always hoped someone would do that for me if it's necessary because there are friends out there - like me with Julia - who would want to know. I know you guys had some problems, as Julia told it, and she mentioned to me that she didn't know if she'd get through it, but then everything started looking up...I thought. She was always unstable for as long as I knew her, but she was also a really strong person and I just can't believe this.

Maria, I'm so sorry for your loss.

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[info]ducklingpark
2008-04-28 07:29 pm UTC (link)
I didnt know her but I feel like I did. Only had seen some comments she made on other friends ljs. I remember reading a comment she had made one time and thinking she sounded very wise. I am sad for yours and everyone elses pain & loss at this time. It was very thoughtful of you to leave this journal up for her friends. I hope Julia has found peace now.

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[info]gwenners
2008-04-28 08:36 pm UTC (link)
I have nothing to add but my sorrow. :-(

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[info]saxifrage
2008-04-28 09:42 pm UTC (link)
I didn't know Julia well, but from the little I knew she seemed like an extraordinary and wonderful person. *hugs* and condolences for you and your loss. I was wondering, are there any charities or guide dog schools Julia was interested in? I'd like to make a donation in her memory, if that's OK.

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My Condolences
[info]mbrothman
2008-04-28 10:41 pm UTC (link)
Maria,

I worked with Julia and Dr. Karron. I am so sorry for this tragic event and your loss.

It is sad that someone so bright and talented was taken from us too early.

If I can be of any help, please feel free to contact me.

My condolences on this sad event.

Matt Rothman

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[info]lijepanena
2008-04-29 04:26 am UTC (link)
I just wanted to add this. I am SO angry at the family that abused Julia. =( Reading those entries were hard for me because I came from an abusive background, too, but not as bad as hers. How I wanted to throttle her father for doing the things he did to her.

I wish parents knew what kind of damage they can do to children. I wish that her mother had the courage to take Julia away from that from the beginning and not subject her to all that abuse.

I wish and hope that trauma practices in therapy would improve so that more people will be saved. Julia was so insightful and kind. The world lost a beautiful person. She inspired me to keep going with my social work degree, even when things get rough.

Maria, I hope you don't beat yourself up over this. I read through some of your LJ. Relationships are hard. It's hard to know what to do and when. There's no way to predict the future. From what I've read in Julia's LJ, I know you two tried everything you can. No matter what, people outside of the relationship will never know what goes on in the relationship. I hope you find peace and healing.

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[info]weisser_traum
2008-06-18 04:26 pm UTC (link)
Relationships are hard, that's true...
For those outside it's easy to judge, but what the hell do they know???

My sympathy to Maria.

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[info]gidget_ca
2008-04-29 06:07 am UTC (link)
I believe I recall Julia from EFNet and my own transition over a dozen years ago. She was quite helpful. I'm sorry to hear that she came to such a sad end =(

My condolences.

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[info]cmcmck
2008-04-29 07:46 am UTC (link)
I didn't know Julia but saw her comments on friends' LJ's. I notice that she attended a Quaker meeting house. I am also a Quaker and tho' it's not much to offer, I'll speak a word at Meeting for Worship this Sunday in her memory in Canterbury UK.

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Rest Well, my sister.
[info]eccefama
2008-04-29 01:04 pm UTC (link)
I may very well be one of the people (if not the person) who knew Julia the longest. Going back well before her transition to her days when programming was her primary escape from dealing with the abuse memories and her own gender struggles. I believe, in her case, the "cures" only made her diseases worse. She was my sister, my friend, and indeed part of my family. She will be greatly missed and fondly remembered.

I stood by you in life, I will stand by you forever.

-Graci

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[info]aillecat
2008-04-29 01:42 pm UTC (link)
Julie was one of my best friends... at different points in each other's lives, we played some major roles. I introduced her to a friend I lived near when i was in NC, that grew into a long term relationship for her. While that was not "in the cards", so to speak, and she had some issues during and after that relationship, she contacted me after all the ECT and said "I know you're important to me, I can't remember why, but I know you're important, so what can you tell me?", we had to build a friendship all over again. It was difficult, but she had many loving and caring friends around her.

When Shana and I got our Domestic Partnership and went to Noho, one of the people we wanted to see was Julie, but her and Maria had *just* moved to PDX.

We talked online frequently, but my own issues got in the way of ALL my friendships and communication over the last few years, I regret not being there as much as I maybe should have, but a divorce, custody battle, and dealing with a high functioning autistic child can be very difficult.

The last time I saw Julie was at LinuxWorld '04 in NYC. We walked around a bit with each other... it was like old times in a sense, her and I geeking out.

As to what she did for me? She essentially made my life what it is now. She gave me a chance. I helped admin her freenet box (morn.magenet.com) in the mid-late 90's, I was able to use this on a resume to get my first sysadmin job, and the rest... as we say, is history.

She also pointed me in the right direction in my transition, She was one oif the first people i met who was post-op, and I looked up to her... without her, I doubt I may even be alive today, because my gender issues were getting ti\o the point, especially after my cousin died, that I was close to suicide. Thanks to both Julie and Jenny (auntyjen), I found my way, albeit more slowly than some.

I will miss Julie, and I will always feel bad for not being as accessable as I could have been, but maybe now she won;t be suffering as much as she was. Its hard to look at the positive, but thats all we have right now.

Lots of people will miss her, and she left alot of people behind who loved her... and she'll leave behind a legacy of young women who looked uop to her, and took her good qualities as an example, and a shining one it was.

-Trish

PS, are there any plans for a memorial? I told my boss I would be inaccessable this coming weekend if needed for such a time. He knows this has effected me very deeply, and he's giving me the time I need to get back "on my feet" as it were.

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